I needed to use the scissors this morning & as I finished with it, I looked at it carefully & I saw that, the scissors models an ideal couple. Let’s see some lessons every couple should learn from the scissors so that we can become better couples & build enviable homes.
The scissors is always in pairs & that’s where its usefulness is. Once you see one part & the other part is not there, it is useless no matter how beautiful it is.
The effectiveness of every marriage is lost when couples are not together. Separation & divorce destroy the effectiveness & usefulness of every marriage. Remember, ‘united we stand, divided we fall’. Separation is not only when you separate physically & you are no longer living together. There are many couples who are together under the same roof but are spiritually, emotionally, sexually, financially, socially, etc separated. Are you sure you & your spouse are not separated in one of these ways?
The togetherness of scissors is not automatic. There is a small bolt or pin that fix the scissors together in the middle. In the same vein, if couples must be bounded together like this scissors, there must be ‘bolts’ that must fix & wed them together that will make them inseparable. Some of the ‘bolts’ are:
√The presence of God
√ openness& trust
√ Healthy & joyful sex life
√ family vision
√ good family finance
√ hot family altar, etc.
I tried separating this scissors this morning, but the pin was so deep into it that it was not easy for me to separate them.
The scissors is useless except someone holds it. Couples can’t be effective except they allow God to hold them and use them to achieve their marital destiny. No family is really useless. It is either you are positively useful & that happens when it is God holding the two of you. You will be negatively useful when it is the devil holding the two of you. The devil can hold the two of you and use you to destroy each other, and destroy the future of your children & even destroy your eternity. Ask yourself as couples. Who is holding us & holding our family?
Each pair of the scissors has a sharp part & a dull part. The face is sharp while the back is dull. In the same vein, each couple has his/ her area of strengths & weaknesses. Your spouse is not empty. Though you might see the ‘dull part’ of your spouse, but if you want your marriage to accomplish its purpose; you must recognize the ‘sharp part’ of your spouse. You also must display your ‘sharp part’ (strengths). Don’t just display your ‘dull part’. That destroys marriage fast!.
Synergy in working: The pairs must come together before it can cut whatever you want to use it to cut. Each pair will bring its sharpness & join it with the sharpness of the other & cutting will be done easily & smoothly. In like manner, synergy is the energy of any family. All this: my money, my car, my own, my thing, me, mine, myself syndromes will sap away the energy of your marriage.
Synergize your resources, money, connection, visions as couples, so as to give energy to your marriage to advance it to the next level. ‘I’ness is the mother of illness in marriage while ‘WE’ness is the mother of wellness of every marriage.
You want energy for your marriage?, then go for synergy. Only ‘SCISSORS COUPLES’ are SERIOUS COUPLES. You can share to bless a family.
Written By: Pastor Hanson